When it comes to people are you a total pushover? there's nothing wrong with being nice but if it's starting to affect your life to the point of you not meeting your own needs then maybe it's time to change!
Welcome to a very different way to curb your enthusiasm for niceness by seeing it differently in order to decide whether it's chronic enough to see a cure.
The following two exercises are the first steps in a movie therapy session that has been designed to help you literally diagnose yourself through the characters of your chosen movie so you can decide whether or not you really are 'too nice for your own good'
So let's get started by choosing the movie you want to work with...
Easier said than done, I hear you say but don't despair, because deep in the back of your mind is a movie that you can already unconsciously take ownership of, maybe it's your favourite movie or a movie that doesn't necessarily spring to mind but you can't help watching it every time it comes on the TV, here's a few tips to help you choose:-
I hope the above helped, if you have found your choen movie you can now move onto the next step
Guidelines to watching your chosen movie differently...
Sit comfortably, release any tention and strain and allow your breath to become calm and centred and become absorbed in the movie, do not analyse the movie as a critic but pay attention to the story, images and ideas.
Watch the film in a non-judgmental, with curiosity, acceptance and compassion for the characters and observe how their motives and behaviour affect your physical sensations.
After watching the movie, reflect on the following:-
You may find it useful to write down your answers to the above.
The guidelines are intended to make you become a better observer, this may affect your enjoyment of the movie and this should be considered when choosing but the reflections from experiencing the movie differently are designed to help you adapt your learning to situations within your own life.
In order to complete the exercise go to the link on www.thecompassiontrap.com and you will be emailed the full version of this session in order to complete your diagnosis.
Thank you for taking part